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Question -- This married man fancies me, should I date him?

My answer to this question:-

Married men or those in long term relationships are best avoided. Imagine how you would feel if your man was seeing someone else behind your back. Think of the hurt it would cause to any children in the relationship. Think how you would feel knowing that you are sharing this man and only getting scraps thrown down from the table. Is that what you want from life?

That would be my simple answer, however, every circumstance is different, thus the simple answer cannot always apply.

A common line used by players is "I am married, but it is not working out", a bit like "my wife does not understand me", seen in so many old films. It maybe true that he is looking for a new partner, but even then when shove comes to push will he leave is stable life?

"We have agreed to seperate but for the moment are living together". Okay, so this man is saying that he and his wife still share the family home, no problem in this case. If it is true, then he would not mind if you contacted his wife for conformation, where he is guarded, suspect a lie.

"We are staying together for the sake of the children, but have agreed to go our own separate ways". This may well be true, but he has just told you he is not leaving his wife or children. Do you really want to play second fiddle to his family? Sorry girl, but you really need to go and smell the coffee and get real.

If you find yourself dating married men all the time, then perhaps you need professional help to find out why you are afraid of making a commitment!!!